Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping, husband swapping or partner swapping, is a sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship sexually engage with others for recreational purposes. Swinging according to Wikipedia is a form of non-monogamy and is an open relationship. People may choose a swinging lifestyle for a variety of reasons. Many cite an increased quality and quantity of sex. Some people may engage in swinging to add variety into their otherwise conventional sex lives or due to their curiosity. Some couples see swinging as a healthy outlet and means to strengthen their relationship.
The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the freer attitudes to sexual activity after the sexual revolution of the 1960s, the invention and availability of the contraceptive pill, and the emergence of treatments for many of the sexually transmitted diseases that were known at that time. The adoption of safe sex practices became more common in the late 1980s.
The swinger community sometimes refers to itself as “the lifestyle”, or as “the alternative lifestyle”.
I believe that swinging especially when you get older and feel more comfortable about expressing your sexual desires, wants and needs is an excellent way to have fun and there are some great senior swinging sites to help you get started on your swinging journey.
Swinging is similar to most alternate sexual practises, such as BDSM and you should have discussed it in full with your partner, what goes and what doesn’t and what are your limits and expectations.
If you are more mature and looking for similar couples who hopefully have the same expectations as you, then I would recommend you research older swingers sites. Younger couples are maybe considering trying swinging to save a relationship or add some spice, where it has been proven over and over again that you should only swing with your partner if you are stable and content in your relationship or it can drive you apart.
As I have mentioned in previous posts, it is important to learn the lingo- so I have included some common terms in the swinging lifestyle.
bi-curious: a heterosexual who is interested in a sexual experience with someone of the same gender
bi-sexual: a person who is sexually attracted to all genders
bukkake: repeated ejaculation on an individual
dead bedroom: a term used to describe a depleted sex life
double penetration (“DP”): when someone of the female sex has two penises in any bodily orifice at the same time
fetish: a sexual desire whereby someone is sexually gratified in an atypical way to a certain object, article of clothing, body part, etc. (e.g. panty fetish)
full swap: when a partner/couple is willing to engage in full sexual intercourse with another person or couple
kink: an unconventional sexual fantasy, fetish, or concept; derived from the idea of a “kink” in one’s sexual behaviour
gangbang: when multiple partners (usually 3 or more) engage in sexual intercourse with one person
group sex: when more than two people engage in sexual intercourse (e.g. multiple couples having sex in same room)
mfm: a threesome involve two males and one female
fmf: a threesome involving one male and two females
pansexual: someone whose sexual attraction is not restricted by gender, biological sex, or gender choice
polyamory: the concept of having more than one romantic and/or sexual relationship at the same time
soft swap: when a partner/couple is willing to engage in foreplay (e.g. oral sex) and sexual interactions with another person or couple except for full intercourse
the lifestyle: the modern day term for “swinging”
vanilla: term used for regular people who engage in monogamy and do not swing
The most important thing is to do your research, have fun, be safe and enjoy this exciting new world.
Posted by: Sarah Dixon | Posted on: November 17, 2020 | Posted in: MAMA