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Freaky Friday

You might of watch fifty shades of grey or more recently 365 days and be intrigued in the BDSM world, it’s not as dark as you might think and can be very exciting to explore but there are a few things you should remember:

Safety first! When you visit BDSM sites or look for encounters, please make sure you feel 100% comfortable and are honest about your lack of experience. There are many fetish dating sites and take your time exploring this exciting new world. You could even spice up your Valentine’s Day plans.

Terminology: Familiarise yourself on the common terms and abbreviations in the BDSM world:

Aftercare When a scene is over, aftercare is the emotional and physical care that’s administered, usually by a top. Proper aftercare may be used to prevent a drop.

Age Play When one person takes on an older role and one person takes on a younger role, such as a father-daughter scenario.

BDSM An umbrella term used to describe a sexual practice that involves the use of physical control, psychological power, or pain. It typically includes the components of bondage and discipline, domination and submission, or sadism or masochism.

Bondage and Discipline A type of BDSM practice that incorporates bondage (tying, binding, or restraining someone) and discipline (punishing a submissive partner when they break a rule).

Bottom The person in a scene who follows the orders and receives the sensations.

Breath Play A form of play when one participant controls their breath. 

Consent Agreeing to certain acts in a BDSM scene or relationship. Practitioners believe that consent is what separates BDSM from assault.

Contract An arrangement that outlines the rules and structures of a BDSM relationship. It may be written or oral.

Dom A dominant who is male.

Domina A dominant who is female and embraces a feminine gender role.

Dominance and Submission (D/S) A term for the behaviors or rituals that a submissive person follows in a BDSM relationship. In D/S, one person usually has power over another.

Dominant A person who has the authority in a BDSM relationship or scene.

Drop The physical or emotional exhaustion that takes place after a scene. Both tops and bottoms may experience a drop. Crying, feeling sad, and physical shaking are all signs of a drop. 

Dungeon A location where BDSM play takes place (usually in a person’s home or at a club).

Dungeon Monitor A person (or group of people) who supervises BDSM activities at a club or play party to make sure the acts are safe and consensual.

Edge Play BDSM acts that are considered more intense or dangerous, such as breath play.

Female Dominance When a woman takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship or scene.

Female Submission BDSM activity in which a woman submits to a sexual partner.

Fetish An obsession with a specific experience, body part, or object.

Fetish Wear The clothing worn by those who practice BDSM (usually leather attire or other role-playing costumes).  

Gender Play A type of BDSM play when an individual in a scene takes on the role of the opposite gender.

Hard Limits An activity that a person in a BDSM relationship absolutely won’t do.

Impact Play A type of play that involves striking the body.

Kink Nonconventional sexual practices. BDSM is often referred to as kink.

Master The person who has control over a slave in a consensual master-slave relationship.

Male Dominance BDSM acts when the dominant partner is a man, also called maledom.

Male Submission BDSM activities when the submissive participant is a man, also referred to as malesub.

Masochist An individual who likes or becomes sexually gratified by their own pain or humiliation.

Mistress is a female dominant, or dominatrix, in a top/bottom relationship

Munch An informal meeting or party, often at a public place, where people interested in BDSM can mingle.

Play A term used to describe the BDSM acts themselves.

Play Party A social gathering where guests can engage in BDSM activity.

Pro Domme A woman who is a professional top and dominant.

Protocol A rule or rules that people practicing BDSM agree to follow.

Role Play When one or more people take on a different identity during a scene. Examples may include teacher-student, doctor-patient, or boss-employee role plays. 

Sadism and Masochism This subset of BDSM involves inflicting pain or humiliation.

Sadist A person who enjoys or becomes sexually aroused by inflicting pain or humiliation on someone else.

Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) This phrase describes what the BDSM community considers ethical behaviour. Kink enthusiasts stress that activities must always be safe, sane, and consensual.

Safe Word An agreed upon word or phrase that a bottom, sub, or slave can say during a scene to stop the activity or session immediately.

Soft Limits A limit that’s more flexible than a hard limit. It might be an act that a person is hesitant to perform but may be willing to try.  

Scene The actual BDSM activities or encounters that take place are known as a scene.

Slave A person who gives up total control of one or more parts of their life to a master.

Submissive Someone who submits to a dominant person in a BDSM relationship or scene. Submissive can be shortened to sub.

Switch A person who sometimes plays a top and sometimes plays a bottom in a BDSM scene.

Top The person who performs the BDSM acts in a scene.

Topping From the Bottom When a bottom tries to control a scene even though it was agreed that the top would be in charge.

24-7s When individuals in a relationship engage in some form of BDSM at all times 

Vanilla Sex Used to label sexual behaviour that doesn’t involve kink.

You might be overwhelmed by the lingo but its important you understand what you are entering into if you respond to someone looking for a mistress or someone looking for their first Dom.

It is a highly pleasurable world and one that you can either dip your toe in and use on occasions or totally submerge yourself in.

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Posted by: Sarah Dixon | Posted on: November 5, 2020 | Posted in: MAMA

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