Talking Divorce with HuffPost
We decided to take part in the HuffPost Divorce Day feature recently – to talk about how we are rocking co-parenting.
The first working Monday of the year (falling in 2018 on 8 January) has been dubbed ‘Divorce Day’ by lawyers, due to the spike in people beginning divorce proceedings.
Going through divorce is never easy, with a difficult holiday season often being the final straw, but separating from a partner doesn’t mean unhappiness is an inevitability forever.
After time to heal, some divorcees manage to create a good relationship, sometimes even friendship, with their ex partner.
Here is what I wrote:
“Wayne and I decided to separate in March 2017 and are currently finalising our divorce. We had been through a very tough time organising our wedding in just 10 days and the death of both our fathers and my grandfather in three months,” blogger Sarah Dixon tells HuffPost UK.
“I knew it was really important for us to get along, we both didn’t want our son, Harry, to suffer because we had decided to get divorced.”
“In terms of childcare we spilt the week, with Wayne having him two nights after school and one full weekend day per week. He doesn’t yet sleep at daddy’s house but that is something we are hoping to introduce later this year. We try to be flexible to each other’s needs and are happy to move our days if either of us has other plans.”
“The divorce being finalised is really important to both of us, we feel that it is holding us back in making a fresh start and we are looking forward to that chapter of our lives ending and continuing to rock our co-parenting relationship.”
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Posted by: Nikki Wood | Posted on: January 9, 2018 | Posted in: MAMA
Tags: co-parenting, divorce, feature, HuffPost, rocking
Hi Nikki,
It is tough isn’t it. I separated from Cygnet’s father nearly 3 years ago when Cygnet was 5 months old. It was tough, monumentally tough, to figure out what our co-parenting arrangements should be. I wasn’t comfortable with our arrangements for a long time, but didn’t have the confidence or strength to argue. Cygnet spend almost 50% of time with his dad, even though I was still breastfeeding – I was expressing like a demon. Luckily, things have settled down now and we have settled into a routine that seems to be working for all of us. It has taken a long time to get here, but time, as they say, is a great healer and makes a lot of the hurt go away.
Pen x #mg
I can see how times after holidays can be peak periods for divorce as the stress of holidays can be immense. So glad you have found an amicable
Solution. #MG
It must be so very hard for the kids, and it is so healthy of you bih to be aware of this. Keep on thinking of them first. And if you can stay friends, great! <3 #mg xoxo