Filter free self love
What do you love about yourself? Well that’s not a question you hear everyday and one that I think the majority of people find difficult to answer. With filtered lives becoming the norm, I would like to explore what it is like to love yourself, and why don’t we do it more often?
We hear the term self-love which is defined as “love of self” or “regard for one’s own happiness or advantage” both have been conceptualised as a basic human necessity however there was the argument that this leads to vanity and selfishness. Although through, progression throughout the centuries self-love had adopted a more positive connotation through the self-respect movement, hippie era and the increase in mental heath awareness that promotes self-love as intrinsic to self-help and to work towards the prevention of substance abuse and suicide.
I want to delve deeper into what it really means to me, on first thought I immediately think back to last week when I indulged in an evening in front of the TV, eating junk food with a facemask on- but is that self-love or self-care or just an evening doing what I want?
My cogs start turning more and more and I start to think about what makes me really happy, and that brings me to travel. I travel alone, I travel with my family and I travel with friends and despite covid-19 I have still managed to go to Cyprus, Monaco and Dubai this year- thinking about travel and the big wide world brings a smile to my face so I start to realise that self-love must start by doing the things we love.
The world is changing and Tiktok, Instagram and Facebook encourages us to live a perfectly filtered life, living behind our phone lens, missing out on real life, dating, friendships, happiness and much more. We shouldn’t miss out on life because we haven’t had our botox appointment, our hair needs dying or our eyelashes filling in.
We should make the most of every precious minute, meet people, go on dates, zoom call if we need to but be real and love ourselves and life unconditionally. I was so pleased to discover We love dates who is a wonderful free dating site encouraging people to be real and step away from the filter.
Next time you upload a photo to social media, please ask yourself do you need that filter? Do you need to live your life through a filtered lens, do you need to edit every element of your life before you upload it? I realise this is why I love the world, the beautiful natural sights that you can see, the smell and taste of different foods, immersing yourself into different vibrant cultures.
I am going to make a conscious effort every day to remember how lucky I am, how I love my career as a baby concierge, my family and friends and my life is full of laughter and love every single day.
Posted by: Sarah Dixon | Posted on: November 12, 2020 | Posted in: MAMA